Today’s Show Recap
We’re hitting the airwaves with another episode of Makin’ It his week! In this show, we talk security versus privacy, how much it costs to change the world, frivolous lawsuits, and freeing yourself from toxic people. Let us know what you think of the show in the comments section at the bottom of the page!
Let’s get to it!
In the wake of the San Bernadino shootings, you’ll recall that the FBI asked Apple to create a backdoor into the iPhone of the perpetrator. Apple refused, and ultimately the FBI hacked into the phone on their own (here’s a refresher on the story if you need it). Problem solved, right? Well, yes and no. As the news cycle has moved on to other things, the issue of national security versus personal privacy has faded into the background. There never was any real resolution on how to handle these situations in the future.
What do you think? Where is the line between government overreach and a citizen’s right to privacy? How much are you willing to give up in the name of national security? Let us know what you think in the comments section.
Next up, the MacArthur Foundation recently announced a competition to award $100 million to one proposal “designed to help solve a critical problem affecting people, places, or the planet.” The 100&Change program will award the large grant every three years to help make an underfunded solution a reality.
Where would you start if you had $100 million dollars? It’s a lot of money, but is it really enough to make a difference? What changes would you make to help the world become a better place? Join the conversation below or on social media. Maybe, our Makin’ It community can come up with the next great idea!
If you’ve spent any amount of time on this planet, you’ve had to deal with toxic people. You know the type – they’re always right, they lie to make themselves look good, they create drama, foster an environment of fear, and generally suck the life right out of you. You could find yourself wading through someone’s toxicity at work, amongst your friends, even within your extended family. Toxic people are everywhere, but the good news is that they don’t have to control your life.
The first step in dealing with toxic people is recognition. If you dread being around someone, feel you must compromise your values to keep them happy, find yourself being emotionally controlled or manipulated, or every interaction leaves you angry and exhausted, you may be dealing with a toxic person. Because of the insidious nature of these venomous people, it is imperative that you find a way to manage their impact before it spreads to other parts of your life. Study after study has proven that living in a constant state of stress, like the fight or flight response triggered by toxic people, is detrimental to your health and shortens your lifespan.
“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.”
― John Mark Green
Stress, in and of itself, is not a bad thing. Short term stress can help you get through challenging situations. For example, the burst of adrenaline, the increase in heart rate, and the increase in blood flow to the muscles and brain helped us, back in the caveman days, to flee from or fight off that saber tooth tiger looking for its dinner.
It’s when that stress becomes chronic, as so often happens in response to toxic people – our modern day saber tooth tigers – that we can get into trouble. Anxiety, rapid breathing, depression, frequent headaches, high blood pressure, a pounding heart, diabetes, insomnia, overeating, acid reflux…it’s no wonder that 70-90 percent of our trips to the doctor are for stress related symptoms.
So back to the good news – while you’ll likely deal with a toxic colleague differently than a toxic family member, you can take their power away. It is important to realize that you alone are in charge of you, and that means you’re in charge of your response to that toxic person. Negative self-talk isn’t helpful – their problems are not your fault, nor are they yours to bear.
If you’re dealing with a toxic person, it’s time to establish clear and concrete boundaries for what is and is not acceptable behavior. If you can’t avoid them, you may even need to go so far as to eliminate them from your life. Formulate a carefully considered plan based on the situation and level of toxicity, execute, and most importantly don’t allow yourself to get sucked back in to the situation. You’ll be glad you did it.
How have you dealt with the toxic people in your life? What strategies did you use to take back control and minimize the effects of a toxic person? Let us know what works for you in the comments section below or by joining the national conversation on social media.
We wrap up the show with our Makin’ It or Breakin’ It segment. You may remember the viral video of the drunken Taco Bell executive who beat up his Uber driver. In a classic example of responsibility avoidance, the exec sued the driver for $5 million. He claimed that because the driver posted the video without this permission he suffered from emotional distress and lost his job. What do you think? Is he justified in seeking damages because his bad behavior was exposed? Or is this the penultimate in frivolous lawsuits? Let us know in the comments section or hit us up on social media.
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